Have you dealt with Newlywed Marriage Insecurities?

Most of us have things about ourselves that we don’t like. A lot of times those things have to do with our physical appearance. Although you may know your spouse really well, there is just something about getting married that causes you to know them at a deeper level and many times allows you to see their insecurities in a different light.  

The months before we got married, I found myself trying to fix my physical insecurities. I didn’t want to have newlywed marriage insecurities. Plus, I did not want my spouse to see me as anything but beautiful even though I knew that at some point, he was going to see the real me. He knew my heart but he did not know how I stressed about trying to keep him from seeing anything that I thought was ugly like having dry scalp. But, once we got married, I realized that he didn’t marry me for my perfection but he loved me, all of me. I realized that him knowing I had dry scalp wasn’t what would hurt our marriage, the real thing that would cause problems was me not being open with my husband about something that mattered to me. Most people feel the temptation to not be completely transparent with their spouse, but when you do let go and just be open about insecurities, it’s an amazing experience.

Here are a few tips:

1)       Be upfront with your spouse even if it is difficult. Open and honest communication builds a strong marriage.

2)      When your spouse is transparent about an insecurity, affirm their boldness and thank them for trusting you with that information.

When you feel like hiding information whether big or small from your spouse, resist the urge. Secrets can really hurt a marriage.